Holy Guacamole (as our oldest daughter said often when she was five)!! How has it been four years since our last post and now EIGHT years since we completed this adoption? It seems like another lifetime ago. And rightly so, I suppose if one considers what all has transpired in the world since 2019. We’ve experienced a world-wide pandemic, lost of social unrest, economic boom and hardship, and so many other things. I trust you have navigated these once-in-a-lifetime experiences successfully. Or minimally, that you’ve come out on the other side.
Our life has been rather interesting. When we finalized this adoption in 2015 in Poland, we were pastoring a church in Indiana. Then, we took a position at our Indiana District offices in 2017 and held that position until the Spring of 2022 when God called our family to move back to the pastorate. We have loved living in our new city and sharing life with some incredible people. Our kids have thrived here in the short time we’ve served and we are excited about the future.
As you can imagine, the kids have all gotten older and really began to develop who they will be, in a few short years as adults. Chloe, our oldest biological child and the author of our last post, is a junior in University studying linguistics and leadership. She is blossoming into an incredibly strong, godly, and beautiful woman. She loves her siblings and we are so proud of her. She is trusting God for the next steps in her life and desires to possibly work in the non-profit sector with refugees and those displaced from their homelands. Eli, our 2nd oldest, is a freshman studying mission’s and worship arts in Bible College. He is growing so much this year in his knowledge of God and learning how to lead others. It’s wonderful how he cares for and protects his siblings. His patience with them, especially his younger siblings, is worthy of honor. We are so proud of him! Abigail, our oldest adopted, is a junior in high school. She works at Chic-Fil-A, holds down a strong friend group from our church, still loves people and has a lot of spunk. She is enrolled at our local career center studying entrepreneurship. Abby’s hope is to study Family Law after high school. She loves Jesus and has grown so much, forgiven so much, and is well on her way to becoming the women God always intended her to be. We are THANKFUL for the long process Abby has undertaken to heal and grow into who she is. Rounding out our four older kids is Gabriel. Gabe also works with Abby at Chic-Fil-A and is part of the Fire and Rescue program at the local career center. He hopes to either join the Army of the fire department as an EMT in a few years. Gabe is so kind, patient, and gentle all the way around. He is funny and keeps us all laughing, which is awesome! Currently he’s attempting to grow a fire fighter mustache to varying degrees of success!
We have THREE 8th graders. I guess these three have always journeyed together in school since the very beginning. But it’s hard to believe in just a few months they will be in High School! Judah is 14 and the oldest of the group. He is still quieter, at least compared to Isaac, but has a great group of friends and is growing into a fine young man. I am proud of how hard he works at things which are challenging for him. He is diligent and faithful. All Judah says about his future is he’d like to work with his hands someday. That has ranged from carpentry to pottery – so we’ll see where he lands. Naomi is still a delightful joy to her parents and really towards anyone with whom she comes into contact. Her disposition, kindness, and bright spirit has always been a wonderful joy for us. She is a spunky 13 year old who is blossoming into just a really awesome young woman. And I’ve never ever met someone who loves to read as much as Naomi. Send her all the books, if you have some lying around, and she will get them read in a couple of days. Isaac, our youngest biological, is the glue which holds the younger four kids together! He is their ring-leader, and while Naomi particular has learned to put her foot down and go to battle with him, Isaac remains the boss, if you ask me. What I love most about his relationship with his three younger siblings is how much he cares about them and loves them. He protects his sisters and pushes his brother towards good things. It’s really great.
Shiloh, our baby girl, gets her own paragraph! For a long time Shiloh was the hardest to parent and sometimes love (full transparency). But since about 2021, she has turned a corner. She’s always been a bit stoic and quiet but also somewhat distant. That distance gap has evaporated in the last couple of years. It has been so wonderful as she has become affectionate, so kind, and a really wonderful little girl, and now nearly a teenager. We love her so much and are so thankful she is in our family!
Mom and Dad are fine too. The early years of adoption are so challenging. The trauma our children experienced brought out every level and piece of dysfunction in ourselves. No one told us this would happen! But it did and it demanded Amy and I grow as well, as we helped the kids grow and heal from their own trauma. Parenting someone’s trauma you did not cause is one of the most challenging, yet Godly, things one can do. All of our children have hope. All of our children have life goals and things they are excited about for their future. All eight of our kids have a relationship with God. A real one. All of our children have life giving friendships and adults in their lives, besides their parents, who love them and invest in them. It’s really a wonderful place to be.
If you’re reading this blog because you’re in the early stages of adoption or maybe you’ve been home a while and things are tough. My encouragement to you is simply this: Stay the Course. Don’t give up. Dig in your heels. Hold on to the good. You’re doing one of the hardest things anyone can do, but in the end, the fruit will be worth it.
Thanks for checking in.